Dating an introvert

Pay attention to your introvert's needs, people, especially if your introvert is really, really attractive.If you don't, trust me, someone else out there will!Abandoning your sweetie in a situation outside his or her comfort zone is never cool.I met my partner by striking up a conversation when her date left her alone and uncomfortable at a Halloween party full of people she didn't know.

If you can find an activity that lets you both meet new people at the same time (Book club? Actually, if you can manage it, I really recommend the tactic my partner and I tried, which was to move to a new state together after nine months of dating. Sometimes compromise means we do something that's in between the things we both want to do, like getting together with a small group of friends instead of going to a huge party, or staying in and reading.

“When I call on you, you aren’t shy, and you know the answers,” he said.

I actually thought I talked a lot in his class, much more than I did in my other classes.

When my partner and I first moved in together, the biggest source of conflict in our relationship was how loudly it's appropriate to listen to Bikini Kill while washing the dishes (Me: as loud as it will go; my partner: "Oh my god, please turn that off."). When you establish exactly what you want out of going out or staying in, it's often possible to find an activity that suits both your needs. Talk about what both of you need to make your time together feel like a valuable and refreshing break.4.

But a very close second was the disparity in our social drives. If your objective is to stay on your own turf and your partner's is to get to know her BFF's new boyfriend, maybe you can satisfy everyone by having the two of them over for beers and board games.2. We're complicated animals; it's rarely as simple as "I'm an introvert, I hate other people" or "I'm an extrovert, I hate being alone." There are probably specific circumstances that make crowds or solitude easier or harder for you to deal with. My partner particularly dislikes groups of people who all know each other and are unwelcoming to newcomers; a crowd where no one knows anyone or a small gathering of intimate friends is preferable. Be thoughtful about how you introduce your partner to friends.

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